You're Not Shy, You're Boring… Matthew Hussey… Get The Guy…

You're Not Shy, You're Boring… Matthew Hussey… Get The Guy…

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We need to talk about something…

You don’t comment on anything that I do…

You don’t say if you like it or not…

You just stand there and watch.

You’re not contributing.

I’m sitting here doing my thing and you’re what? You’re being shy?

It’s boring. You being shy is boring.

You’re better than that Jameson. Push record. Let’s do this.

Hi guys,

Matthew here.

I am going to go on a little bit of a rant today…

I want to go on a rant about shyness.

Acting shy is not okay.

Being shy is okay. Acting shy – not okay.

So often people use shyness as an excuse not to contribute.

To give one word answers, not to laugh at jokes, not to give their opinions on something…

A common trait of people who are shy is that they think that everyone else is aware of their shyness. Rarely do they stop and think that other people don’t think that they’re shy. They think you’re not interested, that you’re cold, or that you’re just boring and have nothing to say.

I think ‘shy’ is a pleasant term for being scared.

People say, ‘well that’s not true, I’m an introvert’.

Even if you’re shy, or would label yourself an introvert, never use this as an excuse not to cultivate the skills of the extrovert.

I know so many introverts – like myself – who make being an introvert into this noble, glorified thing.

If we want to be the most well-rounded, charismatic person that we can be, sometimes we have to cultivate the skills of the extrovert.

It doesn’t mean that you have to live in ‘extrovert mode’ 24 hours a day, but it does mean that you have to be able to bring out those skills when you need them.

When I step on stage, I’m bringing out the skills of the extrovert, even though that’s not who I am naturally.

You can be an introvert and enjoy being an extrovert on certain evenings and occasions, and then go back to being an introvert.

It’s fun to be able to do both.

Never let someone convince you that being an introvert stops you from being able to bring out the extrovert just for the hell of it.

I already know what’s going to happen on this video…

People are going to comment that, ‘he’s clearly an extrovert, I love this coming from him…’.

I was a COMPLETE introvert. I couldn’t even talk to a girl that I liked.

Being able to develop those skills was one of the biggest gifts I gave myself because now I’m able to go into situations that scare me, and in spite of that fear, I’m able to bring out parts of my personality that when I’m younger I never used to be able to bring out.

Being shy is okay. Acting shy – not okay.

‘Matt you’re being so harsh in this video. Why did you turn so mean all of a sudden?’

–Is it okay to sometimes be shy?

Yes of course. It’s fine.

The point is that being that way all the time and using it as an excuse to never not be shy is not good.

Not good for your life, not good for your interactions, for your strength of character and how diverse and interesting you can be.

You’re more than shy.

That’s how life is. It’s never as black and white as people like to label it.

So don’t be labelled. Be what you want to be in any given moment.

Do what works. Not what you ‘think’ you are.

–You get that Jameson? That goes for you too.

I’ll see you soon guys.